Couples Therapy for Lasting Change

Reconnect with authenticity.

Relationships invite us into growth and connection

…if we let them…

Most couples don’t feel disconnected because they don’t care. Read that again.

Most of us care deeply about our relationships, yet we lack the insight to understand why we feel so stuck in the same painful patterns. We all carry implicit beliefs about ourselves and our partners, shaped by the relationships we witnessed growing up and the protective strategies we learned from our earliest heartbreaks. Without that insight, hurt turns into defensiveness, and those ridiculous arguments about who cleans the kitchen better (we’ve all been there!) start to feel like impossible terrain with no resolution in sight. It’s not failure. It’s a cycle that quietly forms around two hurting hearts doing their best to stay connected.

You’re tired of feeling caught in this cycle:

Continually silencing your own needs so you don’t come across as too much.

However your unspoken needs don’t stay quiet. They surface in moments of overwhelm and come out sharper than you intended.
Your partner responds by naming the ways they feel their needs are not being met.
Both of you end up drained, misunderstood, and unsure how things got so heavy.

how i can help

Couple’s therapy can help finally break those problematic patterns

As a depth-oriented relational therapist I integrate the following modalities to bring lasting change to your relationship:

Through an Emotionally Focused Therapy lens, we slow the cycle down so you can see what is actually happening underneath the arguments, shutdowns, and misunderstandings. You begin to understand your emotional triggers, share your needs in a way your partner can hear, and create the safety that allows real closeness to return. When partners feel secure again, communication softens, trust deepens, and the bond between you begins to repair.

From a Relational Life Therapy perspective, we also look directly and compassionately at the behaviors, roles, and relational patterns that keep repeating. You learn to interrupt old habits that push you apart, take accountability without shame, and step into a more balanced, empowered way of relating. Together, you build the skills to repair quickly, communicate honestly, and show up as grounded, respectful teammates.

Utilization of Integrative Behavioral Couples Therapy helps neurodivergent partners by reducing blame and shifting the focus from “fixing” each other to understanding the differences in how each person processes, communicates, and copes. It gives couples a shared language to describe patterns without judgment and offers practical tools to support clearer communication, emotional regulation, and sustainable routines. Together, partners learn how to work with their differences rather than against them, rebuilding connection and a sense of teamwork.

And for those couples navigating infidelity, Systematic Affair Recovery Therapy guides couples through a structured process that helps them make sense of what happened, rebuild safety, and address the emotional injuries caused by the betrayal. It supports both partners in understanding the deeper patterns that made the relationship vulnerable while helping the betrayed partner feel validated and the involved partner take meaningful accountability. Through this process, couples can begin repairing trust, restoring connection, and creating a more honest and secure relationship moving forward.

The blend of these approaches offers couples transformative insight, whether the path leads toward healing together or gently acknowledging that separation is becoming a truer direction.

Sounds like what we need

imagine if you…

Understood the cycle & patterns of your relationships

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Finally understand why you and your partner get pulled into the same unresolved cycle again and again. Learn how your reactions trigger each other and why it happens so quickly. With clarity comes the possibility of breaking the loop and rebuilding connection.

You might have tried therapy or learned every communication skill in the book, yet nothing seems to shift. That’s usually because the real issue isn’t technique, it’s the unhealed emotional layers and relational patterns underneath. Depth-oriented relational work helps you reach those blocks so genuine change can actually happen.

Uncover the real barriers to communication & connection

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Rebuild trust where it’s been strained and cultivate emotional and physical intimacy that grows with you instead of disappearing after the first couple of years. This work helps you understand what eroded safety in the first place and how each of you can show up differently now. As trust is repaired, closeness becomes less fragile and more dependable, creating a relationship that feels alive, responsive, and sustainable.

Rebuild trust and intimate connection

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I want you to know:

Change is possible.

I’ve witnessed couples shift from feeling distant to building a depth of connection they once believed was out of reach.

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faqs

Common questions about couple’s therapy

If found appropriate your therapist will at times recommend individual sessions. These sessions are specifically for further assessment and support in the goal of supporting the relationship.
It’s very common for one partner to feel more ready for therapy than the other. If your partner is unsure, scheduling a consultation together can create space to ask questions, express concerns, and get a clear sense of what the process actually feels like. And if your partner ultimately chooses not to attend, individual therapy can still support you in understanding your relationship patterns, strengthening your boundaries, and learning new tools that can create meaningful change on your end.
In cases where one or more partners are unsure if they want to remain in the relationship discernment therapy can be utilized. It gives each partner space to reflect on their own role in the dynamic, gain clarity about what they want, and understand what repair would realistically require. The goal isn’t immediate fixing, but helping both partners make a grounded, thoughtful decision about the path ahead.
If separation is decided on, Conscious Uncoupling is a modality we use to help partners end a relationship with clarity, respect, and emotional responsibility rather than blame or chaos. It supports each person in understanding the patterns that contributed to the breakup and in healing the wounds that might otherwise carry into future relationships. The goal is to separate in a way that preserves dignity, reduces harm, and allows both partners to move forward with greater emotional integrity. Its about the closest thing to closure partners can get!